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Start by ensuring your child feels safe and supported. Choose a time and place where they feel comfortable—avoid making them feel cornered or pressured. It’s helpful to express that you’re there to listen, not to judge. 

Approach the conversation with empathy. Instead of blaming or accusing, use “I” statements like, "I’m concerned about you" or "I love you and want to help." Avoid language that may make them feel defensive, like "You always make bad choices." 

Allow your child to share their perspective. Sometimes, young people may turn to substances or gaming/gambling to cope with underlying emotional pain, stress, or peer pressure. Make sure they feel heard, and resist the urge to interrupt or offer solutions right away. 

Instead of asking, “Why are you doing this?” try asking questions like, “What’s going on in your life right now?” or “How are you feeling?” This opens up space for a conversation about their struggles rather than making them feel accused or ashamed. 

Even if you don’t fully understand why they turned to drugs, alcohol, or gaming/gambling, acknowledge that their feelings are real. Saying things like, “I know life has been really tough for you lately” can help your child feel seen and validated.